There is a popular saying that the best teacher is experience. I’ve had my own fair share of these experiences I’m writing below and some others are from close friends around me.
Some paragraphs below are some of the top reasons why men fail with women, and how to avoid these deadly mistakes.
Pls note they are my personal opinions, and you may not agree with them all, particularly the lady folks.
Trying To “Convince” Her To Like You:
What will most guys do when they meet a lady they like very much but she’s just not interested? They try to “convince” the lady to feel differently. Bad news is you will never change the way a lady feels when attraction is involved with logic and reasoning.
If a woman doesn’t “feel it” for you, how do you expect to change that feeling by being reasonable with her? When a lady just isn’t interested, we beg, plead, chase, and do our best to change her mind. Its just a bad idea. One that will never work.
Trying To Buy Her Affection With Food And Gifts:
Most UNILAG guys are fond of this. How many times have you taken a lady out to a chinese, shoprite, bought her gifts and she end up turning you down for a guy who didn’t treat her even half as well as you did?
It happened to me those days, so don’t feel bad. It’s only natural when this happens. When you do these things, you send a clear message, something like “I don’t think you’ll like me for who I am, so I’m going to try to buy your attention and affection.”
Your good intentions usually come across to ladies as over-compensation for insecurity, and weak attempts at manipulation. That’s right, ladies see this as manipulation and most ladies don’t just fall for this.
Sharing How You Feel Too Early In The Relationship With Her:
A very big and unfortunate mistake that most men make with women is sharing how they feel too early on.
Attractive women are rare, and they get alot of attention from men. Most guys don’t realize this, but attractive women are being approached in one way or another all the time by men dozens of times per week.
Most beautiful ladies have experience as they have met couple of guys before you, so they tend to know what to expect.
One thing that send beautiful ladies off running away fast is a guy who starts saying “You know, I really, really like you” after one or two dates.
This signals to the ladies that you’re just like all the other guys who fall for her too fast, and can’t control themselves.
Don’t do it. Lean back, farabale. There’s a much better way.
Not Getting How Attraction Works For Ladies:
God created ladies very different from men when it comes to attraction.
Guys mostly fall for looks but not the ladies. I can tell you that ladies usually have their “attraction mechanisms” triggered by things other than looks, that’s why you would see some average guys with some very hot chicks.
What I know is ladies are more attracted to the way a he makes them feel than his looks alone. If you know how to effectively make use of your body language, then things would be far easier. It’s not magic. You have to learn how to do this.
Being Too Much of A Nice Guy:
Have you ever noticed that the really attractive ladies never seem to be attracted to nice guys? Of course you have. What’s going on here? It’s actually very simple.
Women don’t base their choices of men on how nice a guy is. Being nice doesn’t make a lady feel that powerful attraction. And being nice doesn’t make lady fall for you.
I realize it doesn’t make logical sense, and it’s hard to accept, but you need to get over it if you want to change how ladies respond to you.
Looking To Her For Approval Or Permission:
A very horrible idea is seeking her approval in things we do in our desire to please women, which we mistakenly think will make them like us. Most ladies are never attracted to this types of men.
Don’t get me wrong ooh, you don’t have to treat women badly for them to like you, but if you think that treating a woman well means “always getting her approval and permission for things,” think again, you will never succeed by looking for approval. Hot babes actually get annoyed at guys who do this.
If you doubt me, Just ask the hotties you know if mumu guys who chase her around and want her approval annoy her.
Thinking That It Takes Money And Looks:
A month or two ago, a friend of mine was like; “Oke, what’s happening? I’m more handsome than you, have more cash than you, as popular like you, but you have many beautiful ladies as friends unlike me, why’s it so?” I could only tell him “Na God work”.
A common error with most guys is giving up before they’ve even started, cos they think that beautiful ladies are only interested in men who have looks and money. And sure, there are some ladies who are only interested in these things.
But experience has shown me most ladies that know their worth, not those screps like my A222 roomate would call them are far more interested in a guy’s personality than his wallet or his looks.
There are personality traits that attract ladies like a magnet.
Having the title of a president, been a computer geek or having a warm altitude to life cannot be bought with money.
Let me say this, If you know what makes the lady leave her “hidout”, you can make ladies feel the same kind of powerful intimate attraction to you that you feel when you see a hot, confident young woman.
Giving Away All Of Your Power To Her:
Like i mentioned earlier that it’s a mistake to look to a woman for approval, its equally suicidal giving away your power to her. In lame terms, guys try to get ladies to like them by doing whatever the woman wants.
Its a bad idea cos I know ladies are never attracted to men that they can walk all over. Ladies aren’t attracted to dudies and mafokas!
Like I said earlier, I don’t expect many of you to agree with all what I wrote here. You can share your agreement or disagreement by using the comment form.
I know, guys don’t like to make themselves look weak or helpless. We don’t like to ask for help, but asking a older friend or brother or anyone close could be the missing link. It was for me, that’s why I keep saying, God Bless Bros Emeka, my uncle’s PA, who showed me the light. Lol